Do we human beings always try to dominate each other? Is there a constant power struggle going on wherever we turn to look?

We cannot have a winner without a loser or somebody going up without anybody going down. They need each other.
So to be able to dominate we need somebody who believein our power, somebody who -probably unconsciously thinks that he or she can be dominated.

Do we decide ourselves what role to take?
If we feel as a victim for some unjustified treatment, then do we put ourselves as defeated?
Families are a brilliant example of power struggle. I don't know one single family without any sort of competition between the siblings, parents, or parent-child.

The author of the Celestine Prophecy, James Redfield introduces us 4 types of domination / power strategies (http://www.planetdeb.net/spirit/cvovercoming.htm):

The Poor me who seeks to win deference and attention through the manipulation of sympathy.

The Aloof who steals your energy by playing mysteriously passive
The Interrogator who is oh so critical and judgy and finally
The Intimidator who is aggressive and threatening

We all know these people, and we all know which one we are ourselves. Be honest to yourself. We all know which one we "slide into" when being in the middle of a fight.

Why is it neccessary to win? What does that make, change, give us? 

To win a power battle gives short term energy. We feel great, victorious, big, proud but the feeling never lasts for long, and soon after we'll be fighting for more energy. 

To win a power battle will never give as much energy as to make the other person feel as a winner. 

Then it's no longer a winner-loser battle but more -what we in business tongue calls a win-win strategy (there are enough losers and negative karma already existing out there to weight up your positive changes, so don't worry about the missing contrast!). 

Don't take my words for it; try it! Try to be aware and you'll feel the difference. It's huge!

By NOT letting yourself get into the struggle for domination and power, using your skills of empathy and finding a solution / relationship with somebody where you both walks away with a smile; is sooooo much more life giving, rewarding and vitalizing. It's worth the try each time. 

You know, you wonderful people out there; life is precious and life is short. Your choice to decide how to live it.
 

92° fahrenheit in LA today (that's 32° celsius for us who don't get the fahrenheit system!) and I LOVE IT! (hmm but what I like is the contrast of things... I love the heat because I don't like to feel cold....)

Apparently the cold has come to Europe so I guess I'll better stay in the Golden State until next summer!

It's early morning. I woke up at 4.30am with a smile listening to the silence. I have always loved the mornings. The early mornings I just want to enjoy, to be and feel, to breathe in the freshness of the day.

When I was a kid I woke up before everybody else in the house, and I remember running down to the living room, just sitting there, happy embraced by the early morning wonder.
 
Everything smells so good in the mornings. The garden looks reborn, the grass and flowers are wet with dew, the birds haven't really woken up yet, and morning spirits are flying in the air. The stars shine at me telling me their secrets and the half moon is still up there smiling. It's just wonderful. 

Another beautiful moment of the day is at sun set. That's the moment for a lovely walk in the nature. Where I am right now, I'm lucky to have mountains and at sun set I'm in the mountains walking and breathing in air and energy. Coyotes are watching me embracing my favorite tree (I love him), owls are getting ready to hunt for the night, and little bunnies are happily jumping their way through life. So simple. So amazing.

You can feel the nature's life, the electricity and energy in the air and surroundings. It's all there. If you rest your eternal active brain for a bit, close your eyes, open your senses, welcome in the wonder and grace then you'll get it all. You'll be lifted in the air, flow on the wave of the universal creations, and you can feel how the energy start streaming through your body and mind. It's awesome. It's how it is but we are being too busy to feel.

We are swimming in life, we are life. Look at your wrist, look at the fine skin rhytmically moving with your pulse, it's sweet and it's you. It's us and everybody around us. We are amazing, wonderful and the most beautiful creations because we are here. We are life. We are a part of this wonderful nature, this wonderful silence I'm sitting in right now, this wonderful universe who's breathing with our souls.

I'm getting hungry now. My body aks for nutrition. My body wants to live, to be full, to enjoy and be there just as much as my other beautiful senses, higher self and consciousness. They are all together. They all need each other and I need them. Take care of yourself, your body as well as your mind. They need you and you'll be graced by their wonder and embrace. We live together.

Life, energy, love, it's wonderful and I feel so lucky. I feel so incredible gifted and full of love and gratitude that I'm sitting here, writing these words, breathing the same air as so many other beautiful souls, living in the same world, thinking, feeling, dreaming, sharing, giving, loving, vibrating and being.

We are so lucky to be here. We are so lucky.

I want to share with you a concept a clever and dear friend told me about the other day.

HOZHO

Hozho is Navajo and means "walking in beauty"

How silence can be wonderful....

I'm in the middle of a upstream running chaotic freaking confused screaming situation that hasn't really anything to do with me, except that since I'm here I'm forced to swim on the same wave. Funny thing how life puts us into constantly new experiences.

I really believe that there is a reason to everything and if things happen then we are meant to learn something from them. All situations, all experiences, everyday and all the time.
Life is one huge stream and learning process and I'm in the eternal state of complete wonder.

So tonight I'm lucky to be aaaaall alone and it's WONDERFUL!

Silence. Well I guess we'll never have COMPLETE silence but what I'm feeling right now is the direct CONTRAST to all the usual noise and heavy sound...
 
It's great. It really is.

Did I already mention that I love life? I do and a lot more than my written words are able to express. Life is Love. Love is Light. Light is Us. We are Energy and Energy is Life. It all goes together and everything is perfect.

In a couple of days I'll fly back to Europe. First to the UK, then to France and then to an even colder place; Northern Europe = Denmark.
I have been eating ice cream here, wearing sandals and light clothes and it was WONDERFUL! I reeeally do like the heat.

I got LOTS of work waiting for me back there but if everything comes around then I'll be back in California in January. Let's see what life will bring. I'm open, I trust and I'm happy.

I got some beautiful thoughts I would like to share with you but I'll need to be in more calm surroundings when I write them down.

I love to write and I love you guys out there because you are all so incredible sweet, loving and you make me smile and shine. I know that I've said it already but I really NEED YOU!

x

Isn't it amazing how you can start flying from a grey and rainy day, and then when you come up above the clouds, the sun is shining bright?

The sun is always there, sometimes we just forget.

x

Do we have to learn really to listento people? Is it a tool we carefully shape after many years of practice, experience and socializing?
Can't we turn on the "hear with intention" or "pay close attention" button whenever we want or have to? 

When speaking with people how many of us consciously notice each other's body language? Of course we can feel the signals but very often they stay on the unconscious level. 80% of all communication is non verbal and we can learn so incredible much by just looking.  

I had an argument with a friend some months ago. He's brilliant and he absolutely LOVES to talk -especially about himself. Anyway, I was patiently listening to him but after a while I interrupted and said that if he really want us to communicate then maybe we should try to find another way of speaking. He stopped, looked at me with big opened eyes and answered "I don't have a problem, I communicate very well!"
.... lol I had to bite my tongue so he couldn't hear (or see) me giggle.

Do we mirror ourself in everybody and everything? It's a scientific fact that most people are attracted to people who look like ourself, but is it the same thing with words? We are so genius in filtering all communication and hear and see only what we want. Is it about our Ego? We reeeeeeaaaally want to share OUR feelings, OUR experiences, OUR ideas etc
Of course it's good to SHARE but we all know how absolutely wonderful the feeling is when somebody else shows that they really are listening to us. It feels like love.... We feel appreciated and interesting.
Now why is it then so hard for some people to give the present of listening to others?

How do we learn to listen?Or in other words, how do we learn to "shut ourself down" once in a while while communicating with another being? Is it important? We got everything inside us already, right? Just close our eyes, hear our thoughts, dreams and emotions and that's it. Enough. No?

We are spinning molecules. We live on energy and light and to keep the energy high and the light bright, we have to exchange. We cannot STAY happy, joyfull or excited if we don't share the vibrations with somebody. We NEED to communicate to keep the ball playing.

If you love yourself or anybody else (which we always do) then please don't say any not good words about yourself or anybody else.

Often we say things about ourselves and we don't even notice, but our unconscious mind certainly does. We are all in the same boat. On a higher level we are all connected. We live together on the same force and energy, so by saying something not good about somebody else is like hurting yourself.

Please take care of us. It's such a little thing to do but with such a big and wonderful result, and I really do need your help.